Recently, I delivered a new workshop, and a friend took me out afterward. And in my head I was running through the ideas of things I wanted to fix, to correct, or to improve for next time. At the same time, she was saying, “Let’s celebrate your fabulous Kelly Stables workshop! Name something you’re excited about that happened tonight.” I stopped, and thought, this is what I encourage my clients to do all the time. Stop, acknowledge your successes, big and small, and celebrate. So I set aside my list of things to fix, and we named five things I was excited about, and then toasted each one. (Me with my hot cocoa, and she with a glass of wine.)
Those of us working hard to create a life we love, really willing to do whatever it takes to get the life we want and live out our purposes, we also often need to be reminded to stop, take a breath, and celebrate!
I’m convinced that most of us haven’t a clue how to celebrate our own accomplishments – large or small. We hope that other people will congratulate us, even launch a celebration on our behalf. And so we wait, and are disappointed, more often than not, when our accomplishments are not acknowledged. We may even look on with envy when our friends or coworkers are celebrated, and we feel overlooked. But things don’t have to stay this way; we can do something about it.
We can learn to cheer at our own achievements in a way that truly acknowledges our efforts. Keep in mind that with celebration, as with other things in life, the small stuff counts. You don’t need to throw a big blow-out party in your honor, although that can be fun. I’m talking about really acknowledging the action steps you take every day, celebrating the victories and successes you have along the way.
If you want to develop a habit of success, then you also need to develop the habit of enjoying your success. What better way to enjoy living a successful life than celebrating along the way? When you finish sending out those resumes, have worked out for a whole week, finished that project, or finally had that discussion with your spouse – it is time to stop, take a deep breath, and celebrate you!
Celebrations can be a big deal, but they don’t have to be. You can treat yourself to ice cream, or your favorite cup of tea. You can go to the book store and buy a novel to read or a new journal to write in. Perhaps you call a close friend and just say “Yay me!” Or watch a TV show you enjoy.